19 8 / 2014
Choosing women is a political choice for me and I’d struggle in a relationship with someone who wasn’t at least positively discriminating towards relationships with women, as much as I’d struggle in a relationship with someone who could vote Tory.
And whilst I don’t subscribe to the view of feminism as a movement for validating women’s individual choices, I do subscribe to the view of feminism as a movement to make free choice meaningfully possible for women. Same with GSRM activism. So treading carefully around issues of choice is incredibly important for me and safeguarding the choice not to have sex with someone, for whatever reason, is a bottom line I would defend in the teeth of anything. Attacking anyone for the sex they don’t have crosses a line directly into rape culture. And attacking lesbians for our sex lives, for not having sex with the right people, is pure lesbophobia, smuggled directly over from the rapey rapey malestream and still in its original, patriarchal packaging — even the words are the same. The fact that they’re not words you would ever use against cishet men says a lot: lesbians are an easy target for people who are also oppressed, albeit not by us, and who have a lot of legitimate rage to vent. We’re scapegoats, in other words, and I’m tired of it."
21 7 / 2014
Radical feminism is basically historical-materialist so ‘being precedes consciousness’, i.e. the material world determines what you can think about it (your ideology). Or, the material world of humans is produced by capitalism so then humans have a capitalist ideology (substitute ‘capitalism’ for ‘patriarchy’ when talking radical feminism).
But in queer feminism/ theory, consciousness precedes being so the root that the ‘radical’ so often affixed to ‘queer politics’ refers to is what you think. Which sort of makes sense if you take an ‘I think therefore I am’ approach — you have to have a consciousness for the material world to exist for you, therefore the material world stems from your consciousness (for you). Therefore you can think the world differently.
Personally I think being and consciousness are in a kind of chicken-or-egg loop, but if pushed I opt for historical-materialism.
07 7 / 2014
"Previous research has suggested that parenting roles, work roles and home roles within same-sex parenting families are more equitably distributed when compared to heterosexual families. ‘People take on roles that are suited to their skill sets rather than falling into those gender stereotypes, which is mum staying home and looking after the kids and dad going out to earn money. What this leads to is a more harmonious family unit and therefore better health and wellbeing."
27 6 / 2014
If you mean vulva, say vulva — don’t say vagina if you don’t mean the muscular tube leading to the cervix. ’Female’ genitalia (the kind of genitalia that makes doctors say ‘it’s a girl’ when a baby is born, anyway) is not just a hole. The most fun bits, for those of us who have this kind of genitalia, are on the outside. The vagina is the bit that’s the most fun for cishet men. Let’s not reduce our genitalia to that.
27 6 / 2014
"Prostitutes are real people with personalities and feelings. This is not a radical notion. Pro-sex work lobbyists are not the only organizations fighting for the rights of women’s personhood. Yet, the work and activism of feminists are demonized by the pro-sex work lobby — abolitionist groups, for example, are unjustly compared to the conservative right (not-in-my-backyard types). The comparison is justified on grounds of language similarities, as abolitionists frame prostitution as an inherently sexist, violent act — a form of exploitation. This argument is not rooted in conservative moralism, though. The abolitionist stance refuses to demonize the prostituted woman, but rather assigns blame to the perpetrators of violence, the state, and the dominant sex. Unlike NIMBYs, both historically and contemporarily (such as the 1984 injunction), feminists who oppose the sex industry address the hierarchies which exist within prostitution and that create a context within which the sex trade can exist(race, sex, and class) and the systems of oppression which are exercised. Feminists are not attempting to erase prostituted women and their experiences, but rather criticize the conditions which allow exploitation to manifest."
27 6 / 2014
By now, I have political lesbian/ feminist reasons for wanting women, no matter how they identify, to seriously consider and positively discriminate towards relationships with other women. However, I don’t think that anyone’s feelings for anyone should be written off as insignificant or unimportant: I know too well how that feels. I can’t honestly empathise with the pain that some bisexual people express when called gay instead of bi, or subsumed under gay and lesbian identities, but I can empathise with the pain of being insistently presumed straight and I guess it’s the same kind of thing.
BUT, it has to be the same kind of thing on a different scale. This is a compulsorily heterosexual world in which ‘gay’ is a subculture (and I like to think of lesbian as a counterculture). Pressure to identify as exclusively same sex/ gender attracted just can’t be compared to the pressure of compulsory heterosexuality. Lots of bi activists admit this, but things like calling gays and lesbians ‘monosexual’, as though *which* sex/ gender we’re attracted to were incidental (and then lumping us in to a Privileged Group with heterosexuals), is inexcusably reductive. It’s no way to counter biphobia in communities gathered around same sex/ gender attraction or other forms of gender non-conformity either."
15 6 / 2014
"Lesbians more than any other group of women disturb the cultural perception of women as ‘other’, as beings who exist to complement men – their very existence says that some women can exist first and foremost for themselves and for other women."